There is nothing better than when a guy is actually creative when it comes to planning the date. A little mystery makes it very exciting. And even more so when its a surprise.
So I get a text from a guy that I just went on a first date with the other night:
Text 1: Do u have a fear of heights?
Text 2: How about sharks…I mean swimming in the ocean?
Text 3: and finally, how is your sense of direction?
Text 4: Meet me at the end of the Santa Monica pier at 9:15 tonight.
Awesome. I love surprises, even more so when he makes it so fun! My guess, is he is taking me on the ferris wheel. Setting up mystery makes me very intrigued about him and is very, very sexy. Maybe its the creative in me, that wishes all men would be unique when it comes to things to do. Really, is it that hard? Or are men just lazy? Seriously, there is a whole internet filled with ideas…just google it!
Robert Vaux provides some advice in his article “The Best Ways to Surprise a Girl“. He says, “The secret to a good surprise is to catch her off-guard, and also to make sure that the surprise is pleasant for her. Pick an average Tuesday when nothing much is going on, or sometime when she won’t suspect anything. If it hits her out of the blue, she’s much more apt to be touched.”
Funny story though. The guy who texted me the questions (up above), when I met him at the Pier that night, he said he was all freaked out when I texted him back that I loved surprises! Because he had NO surprise, he was just texting me questions…hilarious! Guess he’ll never do that again….
At one time, I was talking with a guy who said that online dating its always so fun and light when you’re talking on the phone and emailing, but as soon as you meet in person, it seems to get serious. He wondered why that was… I see his point. I know exactly what he means. Each individual is trying to decide in then next hour whether they want to see this person again or not. Seriously, if you think about it, its a little crazy to think you can know someone within an hour.
According to online dating site “It’s Just Lunch“, on a first date, men need 15 minutes to decide if they want a second date. Women need an hour. (They always say that men are like microwaves and women like crock pots!)
There have been times where I do feel I know after one hour and there are times I want to give it a 2nd date to be sure. So if the 2nd date is really the deal breaker, wouldn’t you try to be a little more creative? Adding mystery sure spices things up.
And who says, it has to be the guy who plans it! Awhile back, I told a guy, who I was having a 2nd date with, to meet me at a spot in Venice on his bike at sunset. (And where flip-flops.) I brought a big warm beach blanket and 4-pack of those miniature wine bottles. We road our bikes a ways on the beach path until it got dark, then found a spot on the beach and spread out the blanket. We talked, laughed, (and some smoochin’) while staring at the stars until about 1am. Awesome. I really think he loved it.
So surprises don’t have to be expensive, just creative.
Here are some websites that have some creative ideas:
A few of my favorites include:
- Laser Tag
- Going to the Zoo
- Magic Show
- Picnic in a Park at Night
- Go Karts
- Drive in Movie (but in your garage!)
- Glow Sticks at the Beach
- Dance Lessons
- Private Dining Room
- Amusement Park