The other night, the movie Hitch was on TV. I absolutely love that movie. Will Smith who plays a Love Doctor teaches his clients how to date the woman of their dreams. He’s an expert of knowing all the things that women adore so they would be further interested in a man. (I guy can learn a few things from this movie!)
There are so many hilarious encounters that happen but one of my favorites was the scene where Will is teaching his subject how to give the first kiss. He says "8 out of 10 women believe that the first kiss will tell them everything they need to know about a man" "The secret is to go 90% of the way and hold". Meaning don’t go ‘in for the kill’, but make the woman meet you the other 10%.
Kissing is very important in a relationship and I can honestly say that I am one of those 8 women who puts the first kiss very high on the list. There is nothing worse than being with someone who you are not compatible kissing. There should be crazy sparks! The last man I kissed, I could tell immediately we had that connection. Our first kiss was a little awkward because we were trying to find each others rhythm, but overall I knew we were very compatible in that department. And looking forward to future opportunities. (too bad that one didn’t last but a milli-second)
So I decided to do a little digging and see what men think about the first kiss. On Ask Men.com there is an article on "Top 10: Secrets To A Great First Kiss".
"Most guys just don’t realize how important that first kiss is to woman. Well, this should give you an idea: When you kiss a woman for the first time, she decides right then and there if she ever wants to kiss you again. Use these 10 tips to be sure you always leave her begging for more.
10. Do it in private
Privacy is key. A big mistake that too many guys make is going for a kiss in the wrong situation. Women want that first kiss to be special, and they’d prefer to share the moment with you and you alone. So if you’re out somewhere social and you feel like the time is right, take her to a back room or, even better, to a completely different, more personal location.
9. Know when to pull out
There’s no better way to let her know that you’re a catch than by being the first to call it quits. Most guys go for the gold on the first kiss… and they rarely end up getting it. By being the one to slow down, you’ll show her that you’re in control… and most importantly, you’ll leave her dying for more.
8. Feel her out
When you feel the moment is right, reach over and touch her hair while you’re talking and make a comment about it. Say, "Your hair looks so soft," and lightly touch the tips of it. If she smiles, reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time shift your glance between her lips and her eyes a couple of times. If she lets you keep touching her hair, you know that she’s ready to be kissed.
7. Be a tease
Newsflash: There’s nothing that women love more than to be teased, so let her know who’s in control by driving her crazy with your lips. Go in like you’re going to kiss her, then at the very last second, pull away and flash her a mischievous grin. Use this sparingly to keep her turned on and on her toes.
6. Ease into it
Still feeling a little nervous about going in for the kill? Ease into it by leaning in and smelling her neck. Take a big sniff and say, "Mmm… you smell good." Then slowly brush your nose and cheek along hers as you pull your head back to make eye contact with her. When your eyes lock, close them and go for it.
Ravish her like a brute and dip her like a gent…
5. Show some passion
Every woman longs to be ravished, so why not make her fantasy come true? As you’re kissing her, reach back behind her and pull her head back by gently grabbing the hair right above her neck. Slowly kiss your way down her neck and give her a playful bite, then pull back slightly and breathe heavily on her neck and in her ear. Make sure your pants are securely fastened, because at this point she’ll be trying her hardest to take them off!
4. Dip her down
If the mood is right, add some sensuality and chivalry to your first kiss by gently dipping her down, ballroom-style. There’s no better way to make her feel like she’s with a powerful and confident man. Do it right, and she’ll never forget the moment.
3. Use your hands
Women love to be caressed, especially while they’re being kissed. Starting above her ear, run your fingers through her hair, down to her neck and all the way down her back. Then slowly slide your hand back up again. Use both hands, and alternate between using your whole hand and just the tips of your fingers to give her an experience she won’t soon forget.
2. Spice it up
Once initial contact has been made, spice it up a bit with some variety. Move from short, soft kisses into longer, deeper ones, then back again… and don’t use your tongue any more than she does. Change the angle by moving your head to the other side, and alternate between sucking on her lower and upper lip. Be sure to stop to breathe after every few kisses. These little moves will let her know that you know exactly what you’re doing.
1. Explore her body
When you’re ready to really turn up the heat, kiss her on her neck and move your lips slowly up to her earlobes and give a light nibble. Don’t be surprised when she starts breathing heavily.
WOW. I’m quite impressed that there is so much detail. I guess men need that much detail?!