One of my friends defines single as 6) not dating anyone and 7) not in a relationship. Some married friends define it as an urgent need that they need to help fill. My mother defines it as 9) a picky daughter. Some divorced friends define it as 10) a lucky person.

With 82 million singles in the US, the definition and the word "single," is changing and expanding…

Author Sasha Cohen, created a new word to replace single, "quirkyalone." "Quirkyalone is a person who enjoys being single (but is not opposed to being in a relationship) and generally prefers to be alone rather than dating for the sake of being in a couple. …the core of quirkyalone is the inability to settle. We spend a signficant chunk of our lives single because we hold relationships to a high standard." She has a website and has written a book titled "Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics." (You can purchase on our blog)

SingularCity has coined the phrase "singular" to describe the single lifestyle. This word describes people who are living their best lives now. They feel complete. They are not half of a whole.

Times have changed and more people are single so maybe it’s time to redefine the word single. I have to also say it is nice to see that the word single defined as a positive characteristic and lifestyle of choice…but, is it me or does it sound like they are redefining single so that #8 will stop feeling sorry for us?!

It made me wonder if women really care what a man drives. Is there a physical attraction for women towards cars? I found an article “Science Proves Exotic Cars Turn Women on” by Keith Barry, posted on Wired.

Here’s a snippet:
“David Moxon subjected 40 men and women to the sounds of a Maserati, Lamborghini and Ferrari, then measured the amount of testosterone in their saliva. He found everyone had higher levels of the stuff — a measure of their arousal — after hearing the revving exotics, but the amount the women had was off the charts….We have now scientifically proven the physical attraction people feel when it comes to cars.”

Guess what car ALL women are turned on by? read the article to find out >

Personally, I do like for a man to drive a nice car, but its not the end all for me. I would much rather receive the sweetness and attention than be driven in a hot rod!

Their intro: “Fighting with your significant other? Arguing with a friend, roommate, or co-worker? Who’s right and who’s wrong? Air it out anonymously while letting people of the world give you advice and make the decision on who should apologize.”

Pretty cool idea. Why not solicit opinions from total strangers, we might actually learn something from each other. Check it out!

Here’s a sample:
QUESTION: What Happened To Chivalry?

Read both views and what others had to say.

It shows a lot to the girl that a guy would take the time to figure out what she may enjoy. It doesn’t need to be extravagant and expensive, just thoughtful.

I’m a kind of girl that appreciates the small thoughtful gestures. But I do know there are women out there that expect to have lots of money spent on them…makes you wonder what they are really after, huh?

I recently had a date that started out driving up north on Ocean Ave in Santa Monica, down to the Pacific Coast Highway towards Malibu. If you are familiar with the area you know about the “incline” that is the road that takes you from the top of the cliff of Santa Monica down to the PCH, that is parallel to the ocean. As soon as you turn the corner and you are going down the incline, it is the most breathtaking view ever. (at least for the US…) miles of beaches, the hills and views of the Pacific Palisades and Malibu…breathtaking. It was right around sunset and it didn’t hurt that he had a convertible!

The first stop, he took me to a small beach-house looking place that was actually a Thai restaurant, Cholada, right off the PCH. It was a perfect intimate place with amazing food! Next stop, was Moonshadows in Malibu. A restaurant- lounge place that overlooked the ocean. The waves were crashing right under the glass walls below us. Again…breathtaking. The place had romantic blue lighting, and white leather stools and lounge areas. And best of all what’s wonderful about this area…are the heat lamps! It can be January, and you can still be outside in a strapless dress!

check it out… its well recommended!

Maybe if the girl in the story had been wearing a SingleTee the conversation would not have felt awkward and his story became their story and she really liked that he had a rotary phone and fell in love with him…

Check out the other great cartoons and films from Ingredient X Entertainment, Tales of Mere Existence, by Lev.

MELISSA’S STORY
“My guy friends all tell me that I can be very intimidating. I served 6 years in the military, so sometimes I can give off this independent, no-nonsense kind of vibe that can scare men off.  Everyone that gets to know me knows that I’m care free and very easy to talk to. The problem for me was getting guys to approach me and learn this for themselves. Single Tease T-shirts work as a great ice breaker. They show guys that I have a sense of humor and it gives them that little push they need to come over and talk to me. I was amazed at how many men would talk to me when I wore my shirt, and how many more glances I would get. These shirts work! I’ve recommended them to all of my girl friends, and my guy friends are eagerly awaiting a men’s line of shirts.”

As a sentient, conscious “person” – with intentions, goals and aspirations – you desire experiences that fulfill and satisfy therefore your conscious self does indeed discern the difference between desired familiarity and undesired familiarity. Herein lies the dilemma: the unconscious is craving the familiarity of any constant experiences while the conscious self craves the familiarity of only that which satisfies and fulfills. Awareness of the fact that this is how the mind basically operates empowers you to no longer be a victim to unconscious programming.

Armed with the knowledge of these unconscious/conscious directives of the mind you can knowingly engage efforts that reprogram one aspect of your mind’s directive into alignment with the other (presumably it is obvious which aspect of the mind you want to sync up with the other). This is accomplished through one basic effort: that of shaking yourself out of what has unconsciously become normalized.

This is achieved by changing up your routine! Going only to the same old haunts for dating possibilities and “consciously” hoping for a different result is futile – unless you want to reinforce the unconscious expectancy of disappointment.  Begin doing different things and participating in more varied activities and events with the intent of shaking up what has become unconsciously normalized.  This engagement disrupts the familiarity that has heretofore become normalized and the consequential expectations derived from rote, familiar engagements.  Take some cooking classes! Learn to surf! Go to museums; any activities that are outside your normal bar, dance club or other familiar activity.  The novelty of new adventures is not only good for stimulating your well-being but it also serves to break up the unconscious, normalized expectancy of let-down.

As you stir up the normalized conditioning of unconscious patterns a sense of renewed expectancy for positive outcomes are fanned, fueling greater possibilities of reward with dating experiences.  Your life doesn’t change simply because you want it to; it changes because you do.

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